Sexual violence is a term that describes any sexual activity that has happened without consent. This includes rape, sexual assault, sexual abuse and sexual harassment.
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According to the Rape Crisis Centre, there are approximately eleven rapes every hour in England and Wales, and one in four women have been raped or sexually assaulted. You are not alone.
There are many complicated and unique responses to sexual violence, and it can affect each person in a different way. There is no wrong or right way to feel or react. As the body and mind process this trauma, many different emotions, behaviours, and physical responses may appear and disappear. Complicated emotions and reactions could return months or years after it happened. Remember, it is never your fault, and nothing to do with your actions, something you said or how you dressed.
Traumatic experiences like rape can lead to mental health issues. Around 70% of people experience a large amount of stress after a sexual violence experience. Women who have been raped are thirteen times more likely to try and take their own life. It is important to get some support to help you recover and heal from what you have been through.
Download our NHS recommended app if you are struggling with suicidal thoughts or concerned about someone. There are over 800 resources to help you stay safe for now.
Rape Crisis have a free, 24/7 rape and sexual abuse support line and online chat.
Safeline have a one-to-one chat service for specialist counselling and therapies with trained experts.
Research carried out by University College London shows that 94% of women who are raped experience Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). In addition, 33% of women who are raped contemplate suicide and a further 13% attempt suicide.
It is important to listen and believe them without any judgement. It is very normal for a survivor to freeze or even return to their abuser. Avoid questioning this behaviour as it can create more shame and humiliation. It is important to let them know they do have support systems and that you are there for them to help navigate this safely.
Rape Crisis England and Wales have a guide to supporting someone who has experienced sexual abuse.
Read the NHS guide to getting help and finding support after a sexual assault.
Professional training for anyone working with survivors and people at risk.
Training courses for professionals and organisations working in sexual abuse and related fields.
Stefani was repeatedly raped as a teenager by a music producer. Like many survivors, she blamed herself and felt too ashamed to tell her loved ones. The experience left her with daily suicidal thoughts like ‘why should I stick around?’.
The emotional and physical impact of her sexual assault resulted in self-harm, PTSD and, later, a psychotic episode. Stefani encourages others to talk to somebody, rather than engage in harming behaviours. As an advocate for sexual assault survivors, she says “I always tell people; tell somebody, don’t show somebody”.
“I didn’t think I would ever be able to talk about what was happening to me…it was ‘our secret’. It was humiliating, degrading and shameful. I wanted to be free of the pain and torment, and suicide seemed like the only way out. But good friends showed me another way – with their gentle support, I started to tell my story at my own pace and when I was ready.
My body still bears the scars, and I am reminded of the terror I experienced every time I use the bathroom. However my GP, physiotherapists, and pilates have helped alleviate the physical symptoms. I still have suicidal thoughts, but I have been taught how to handle them such as I picture the thoughts inside a balloon which I can let go of and watch it drift away. Or if the thoughts come at the end of a long, tiring day, I know they may be gone in the morning. Mostly, though, it’s because I no longer feel alone with my suicidal thoughts, there are other women who feel like I do, and understand me.”
As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and a member on the Board of Trustees and an Ambassador for the charity Safeline, Lydia hopes this emotional account of her personal journey can help to empower fellow survivors.
Watch her inspiring story on YouTube.
Find advice and sources of support for other aspects of women’s mental health.
Learn more about how to have a conversation with someone at risk of suicide.
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